aperturetrigger:

remember:  your writing partners are humans. they are people with lives and jobs and other obligations. but most importantly, they are human beings. think about your conversations with them, think about the time that they might take to message you and how often you respond.  are you always the one to message first or are they ? starting a conversation is hard, asking someone how their day is isn’t easy, and often it’s even more difficult when it’s one-sided.  friendship and partnership goes both ways.  don’t wait for someone to ask you how you are, message them first – chances are you aren’t bothering them, that they are waiting for you to spark conversation first.  and if you don’t think that you’re the one waiting for them to message you, look at past conversations – see who talk to who first. certainly if someone gets up before the other that makes sense.  

engage.  it’s more important than liking starter calls and sending memes, trust me. so many of us are lonely and just having that bond whether it’s just a simple: hey i hope  your day goes well !! versus an entire conversation means so much. 

talk to your partner as much as you wish they’d talk to you. because i guarantee if they are always the ones to start a conversation or asking how you are, they notice. and finding a person that cares that much to do that anyway, if you care about them too ( obviously ignore the people you’re just like: uhhhh about )  maybe say hi everyone so often. you might be surprised.